Changes

I was 44 when we started trying to conceive and my husband was 47. We had only met 3 years previously and though I would have started trying for a baby immediately we moved in together, he wanted to be sure it was the right thing to do. Once we started trying I arranged to have acupuncture and actually when I went along for my first session I was already pregnant! However, sadly it was not to be and we suffered an early loss around 6 weeks. We continued to try and I became pregnant again, this time it looked more positive and I got to 10.5 weeks before I started to bleed and to our dismay we discovered at the first scan that it was a blighted ovum (missed miscarriage). We were heartbroken and it caused a big rift in our relationship, me being keen to continue trying and my husband wanting time to grieve. Eventually through couple counselling we resolved our difficulties and agreed to continue trying. We suffered another early loss a few months later.

It was when my acupuncturist told me that he thought that if I wasn’t pregnant by the end of the year then I probably wasn’t going to be successful that I started to feel that I really might never have a child. For me this was unthinkable. Yes I had left it late but life doesn’t always go as planned and I had never been lucky enough to be in a good enough relationship before.