Sex After Children
Teresal's View
Sex after Children
Well I never thought I would ever be having sex again after the birth of my daughter. I bled a lot and for a long time after, so it wasn’t even a possibility at first. Once things settled down I think we had gotten into a bit of a rut and found it difficult to get started again.
We were constantly tired and just seemed to fall into bed at the end of each day and go to sleep - sleep at that time was far more important than anything else. My husband and I were the same, so it wasn’t as though one wanted sex and the other didn't.
After several months (probably 3 months) our daughter was in more of a routine and going to bed at 6.30pm, which gave us more time just as a couple and the affection started to come back - the odd cuddle on the sofa or a quick kiss on the way past. But it was probably another month before we started having sex again, and although it did feel like an effort at first once we got into it, it was fine.
I wouldn’t say we were doing it regularly at all, just as and when we got time or could be bothered. Our daughter has now just turned 3 and I wouldn’t say that even now we have sex regularly, but we do make time for each other and sometimes it’s just nice to cuddle up together.
I suppose the outcome of this is that there is no right or wrong in having sex after children as long as you as a couple are happy with it. I certainly wouldn’t have been happy if my husband had been putting pressure on me after the birth.
Enjoy some special time as a couple and things will happen naturally.
