Changes

Well I never thought I would ever be having sex again after the birth of my daughter, . I bled a lot and for a long time after , so it wasn’t even a possibility at first, once . Once things settled down I think we had gotten into a bit of a rut and found it difficult to get started again.

We were constantly tired and just seemed to fall into bed at the end of each day and go to sleep, - sleep at that time was far more important than anything else. My husband and I were the same , so it wasn’t as though one wanted sex and the other wasn’tdidn't.

After several months (probably 3 months) our daughter was in more of a routine and going to bed at 6.30pm, this was giving which gave us more time just as a couple and the affection started to come back, - the odd cuddle on the sofa or a quick kiss on the way past but . But it was probably another month before we started having sex again, and although it did feel like an effort at first but once I we got into it, it was fine.

I wouldn’t say we were doing it regularly at all , just as and when we got time or could be bothered, our . Our daughter has now just turned 3 and I wouldn’t say that even now we have sex regularly , but we do make time for each other and sometimes it’s just nice to cuddle up together.

I suppose the outcome of this is that there is no right or wrong in having sex after children as long as you as a couple are happy with it. I certainly wouldn’t have been happy if my husband had been putting pressure on my me after the birth.